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Grab the “Best Posts of 2024” for Christian Singles

If you’re single or single again, you’ll want to grab the “Best of 2024” posts from the Living Single Today blog that I write.

Here’s a list of the Top 10.

Read each post and be encouraged! Share the links with your single friends, too.

1. 7 Powerful Dating Secrets for Christian Women Who Want True Love

Dating shouldn’t have to be so difficult. I mean, all you have to do is find someone amazing who thinks you’re amazing too. You meet. You connect. You keep on connecting. You commit. How hard can it be?

For some of my married friends, it seems like a walk in the park. While I am truly joyful for them, I wonder why it’s so hard for the rest of us to find the person who’s the best fit and build a life together.

Here are seven things (hard-won life lessons) that can make your dating life more positive, healthy, and joyful.

2. Mixed Signals: Are We Dating or Just Friends?

There’s this guy—let’s call him Chad—who texts you all the time, but you’re not really sure where you stand. Chad often asks you to come over and “hang out,” and you talk a lot.

Is this relationship going anywhere? Is this even a real “relationship”?

When a guy sends mixed signals—such as treating you like a girlfriend one minute and then treating you like you’re “just friends” the next (or ignoring you completely)—it’s confusing—and it can be dangerous for your heart. Read more….

3. 5 Lies Singles Believe—and What to do Differently

It’s not always easy being single. Especially when well-meaning friends, relatives, or church people try to “encourage” you, but end up misleading you. Or worse, lying to you. And often, they don’t even know that they’re doing so.

They think they’re being helpful. Instead, you find yourself cringing at their comments or wilting emotionally like a hydrangea on a hot summer day.

It’s time to shed some light on five lies that singles often believe—and the truth that can set you free.

4. 7 Great Ways Singles Can Overcome Loneliness

Ah, the single life. Sometimes we’re content, and other times it’s not easy being alone. After the day ends, when your friends have gone home, and all your devices are turned off, you may just feel a twinge of loneliness.

Then there’s the “Sunday afternoon” effect. You may connect with people at church in the morning and then, as the afternoon lingers on, you feel disconnected. Lonely. They have their families, and you drive back to an empty apartment.

Coupled or uncoupled, we all feel lonely at times. It’s normal, to be sure, but it can be hard to talk about. Here’s help and hope.

5. 6 Reasons Why You’re Not Married Yet

Lately, I’ve been pondering why I’m not married. At least, not yet.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m happy for my married friends. Truly. And, I have a full life. I have a job I like. I write books. I connect regularly with my family, and I’m grateful for my amazing friends. But I still desire to know the joy of married love.

Why has lasting love eluded us? Why are we still single? Let’s explore some ideas.

6. Dating: Becoming the Right Person

Why do I always fall for the wrong guys? Why do the people I date break up with me? How can I make better choices in my next relationship?

Often we choose people to go out with who are not a good match because we’re not clear on who we are or what we really want.

In order to do things differently—and find a special someone who’s a good match—you need clarity. It’s been said that in order to find the right person to date, you need to become the right person.

7. 5 Essential Qualities to Look For When Dating

My friend Heidi once said, “The difference between the wrong man and the right man is like the difference between the darkest night and the brightest day.”

On the journey to finding lasting love, one of the most important things I’ve learned is to know what you want—and don’t want—in a man to date.

Think about the kind of people you’ve picked in the past. What went wrong? And, what do you want to be different in your next relationship?

8. Feeling Isolated? 6 Great Ways Singles Can Get Connected

Allison has a solitary life. Every workday she sits behind a computer, alone in a small cubicle. Most every night, she sinks into the couch to watch TV—or endlessly scroll social media. She has a sense of “virtual community,” but not many in-person friends. Because of her lack of social skills, Allison often feels lonely.

Perhaps your story is different. You’re single—and you have a mostly meaningful life—but you still feel alone at times. How can you feel more connected when we live in a time when people are more disconnected than ever?

9. Love Like You’ve Never Been Hurt

Is it truly possible to “love like you’ve never been hurt”?

Perhaps you can relate. Maybe you have a wayward son or daughter, and it breaks your heart that he or she is so far from the God who loves them. Or your boyfriend dumped you, or your friend’s sarcasm is more hurtful than humorous. Could it be that someone you care about has given you the silent treatment for months? Read more…

10. Uncovering the Truth About Forgiveness

If you’ve ever had your home or car broken into, you know how violating such an act can feel. It’s happened to me twice. Break-ins to your vehicle are one thing; break-ins to your inner life can be devastating.

Perhaps you’ve known the sting of rejection or betrayal from a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or friend. Whether it’s a slap across the face or a slap across the heart, abuse of any kind is hurtful—and simply wrong.

We all handle pain differently. But emotional pain doesn’t have to stay inside festering. Brokenness can be restored. Let’s uncover the healing truth about the power of forgiveness in broken relationships.

 

Thanks for reading! I hope these posts will bless and encourage you all year long.

If you have a suggestion for a topic you’d like to read about on the blog in the areas of dating, relationships, or living the Christian life, let me know. I’d love to hear from you. Contact me at: jackie@jackiejohnsoncreative.com

Blessings and joy,
Jackie

 

Jackie M. Johnson is an author and blogger who writes inspiring content on growing a better life, the power of prayer, and encouragement for singles. Jackie has a heart to encourage single adults of all ages. Her books include the breakup recovery guide, “When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty,” “Power Prayers for Women,” and “Praying with Power When Life Gets Tough.”

 

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Single? 5 Ways to Be Happy Now

Woman wondering
Why am I still single?

Why don’t I get asked out?

Will I ever find lasting love?

Perhaps you know people in the “uncoupled” stage of life who bemoan their single status and gripe to just about anyone who will listen.

Maybe you are one of them.

It’s good to ask the questions. Then explore why you’re single and take positive action.

If you don’t have a special someone in your life right now, and you’re wondering why you’re single, there’s probably a good reason.

Here are just a few things that could be keeping you from a romantic love relationship:

  • You’re not ready.
  • You’re too busy with work, or other things right now.
  • You’re afraid of commitment.
  • You keep choosing people who are unavailable or emotionally unhealthy.
  • Or, you just haven’t met the right person yet—the best fit for you.

If you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and you desire that, you can choose to enjoy this single season of life or simply endure it.

Check out these five (5) helpful ways to find more peace—and perspective—in this solo time.

1. Have hope. It’s OK to feel discouraged when you don’t have someone special in your life. But don’t dwell on it. Move forward with anticipation that things really could change. We can have peace because God has a plan. Trust His perfect timing.

2. Surrender. Sometimes we hold on so tightly to what we think we want in a relationship. But it never seems to work out. I’ve learned that peace comes through surrender, yielding to God, and allowing Him to reign my love life and my whole life. God is constantly working—even when we cannot see it or feel it.

3. Prepare. Are you ready to be in a relationship? Maybe it’s time to get rid of things that are holding you back—like a critical spirit or commitment issues. Think about what you really want and how things can be different next time. The more emotionally healthy you are, the more likely you’ll be to connect with someone in a healthy and lasting relationship.

4. Pray. God cares about your love life. Pray for your future boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife—before you even meet. Tell God your heart’s desires and ask Him for wisdom in this important decision.

5. Choose joy now. Don’t wait to have a significant other in your life to be happy. Despite circumstances, you can choose joy today—and, with God’s power and strength in you, you can live with hope and peace.

Single? Here’s an Inspiring New Blog from Jackie M. Johnson

Jackie M. Johnson

Hi from Jackie!

Are you single or single again?

Do you know someone who is?

Check out my new blog for singles of all ages, LIVING SINGLE TODAY on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk website.

Whether you’re never married, divorced, or widowed, you’ll find inspiring and helpful content on dating, relationships, and living the faith life—and your whole life—with purpose, hope, and joy!

Here’ what you can do:

Sign up now to receive the FREE “5-day encouragement for singles” series.

Forward this to friends or family members so they can sign up for the encouragement email series AND read inspiring posts on the website. (When you click on the link, scroll down and you’ll see the posts.)

Comment and interact when LIVING SINGLE TODAY posts are posted Facebook—starting Monday, January 22 on the Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk Facebook page.

My hope is that the LIVING SINGLE TODAY blog will help, encourage, and bless everyone who reads it. For God’s glory.

Blessings and joy,
Jackie


Single Over the Holidays: 3 Great Ways to Find Joy!

Ah, the holidays!

It’s the time of year when singles are more intensely aware of their singleness.

If you’re unmarried, most likely you’ve had to dodge that perennial question from prying relatives or friends at holiday gatherings:

“So, why are you still single?”

Or, maybe you’ve had to deal with the office holiday party dilemma when you don’t have a date, and the “plus one” on the e-vite blinks at you like tree lights gone awry.

For some singles, the Christmas season tends to exaggerate feelings that have been simmering all year long.

It’s a time to connect with loved ones and you feel anything but connected. Suddenly everyone around you seems to have a significant other or spouse and you feel so very solo.

Solitary. Alone.

Then there’s the sting when a pastor closes the Christmas Eve service with an admonishment to “Go and spend time with your families.”

Yeah, thanks, but I don’t have one.

Of course, some people have their family of origin—their parents and siblings—with whom they gather for the holidays.

But for others the cost to travel home for the holiday is simply unaffordable. Or, they don’t get along with some of their family members.

I get it.

It’s not always easy to see happy couples kissing under the mistletoe or walking arm in arm down a snowy sidewalk—laughing all the way—to who knows where.

So how can you enjoy, not just endure the Christmas season? 

Here are three (3) great ways to consider to find more JOY in the season: 

1. Change your perspective. If you are feeling lonely or blue, try to refocus attention away from self and onto the Savior. Ask him to lighten your mood. 

You may feel sad or other emotions—and you have a right to your feelings. But don’t set up camp there; don’t stay there. Feel the pain, ask God to heal your heart, and then move forward allowing God to heal you in His timing.

Indeed, changes may not happen overnight. Surely, there is a time to grieve or feel miserable. But there is also a time to wipe away the tears, put on your coat, and go build new Christmas memories.

Oftentimes, the joy returns and new hope arises.

2. Find “family” where you can if yours is not available. My single friend Denise has often hosted a Christmas Day dinner for singles who have no place to go for the holiday. Or, have a gathering with friends and celebrate the season together. 

3. Give and serve others. Doing things for others will bring JOY, not only to the people you help, but also to you!

Sharing a smile or a hello with your coffee barista or the clerk at the dry cleaning counter can make a difference. Some folks I know go to a local nursing home to sing Christmas carols or go to a local soup kitchen to serve food and spend time with those who are often forgotten.

3. Most importantly, draw near to the reason for the season: Jesus Christ. Reflect on the true meaning of Christmas and why we celebrate.

Remember the true story of the Christ child, the Son of God, who came to save the world and teach us how to love and have a better life. (Read Matthew 1 or Luke 2.)

Discover the love that changes everything. And you just may be amazed at what happens.

Instead of bemoaning your current state of singleness you can make new choices.

May God invade your heart with JOY—at Christmas and all the year through.

Merry Christmas!

Valentine’s Day for Singles: How to Enjoy, Not Just Endure the Love Holiday



It’s Valentine’s Day and you’re alone. No special someone. No romantic relationship.

But your “single” status doesn’t mean you have to be sad or discouraged on February 14.

Don’t let one candy-infused, heart holiday hijack your hope.

Surprisingly, you can enjoy, not just endure Valentine’s Day, when you choose a new perspective on the annual heart holiday.

Sure, traditionally, Valentine’s Day has been a celebration of love and romance. But is all love “romantic love”? What about the other kinds of love? What if we chose to celebrate those too?

Here’s the thing: the word “LOVE,” in the English language is all encompassing.

We love pizza.
We love our pets.
We love our family.
And, if we have a significant other, we may love them too.

However, the Greek language defines different kinds of love in our lives.

Eros – romantic love
Phileo – friendship love
Storge – love and affection for family
Agape – unconditional, sacrificial love (as in God’s love for us)

What if, this Valentine’s Day, we celebrated these other loves in our lives?

Like calling a family member to say, “love you.” Or texting a friend to let her know she is loved. Or even treating yourself to a special treat or activity you enjoy to celebrate self-love. There are lots of options.

As singles, we can celebrate the love we have, not bemoan what we don’t have.

You don’t need to wait to have a man in your life or a woman on your arm to be happy. Choose joy now.

Let’s celebrate love of all kinds. And find new contentment.

Happy Valentine’s Day, friend!

You are loved.