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How to Let Go and Trust God: An Autumn Lesson



Autumn is a time of shedding. For a few weeks every fall, many parts of the country enjoy a colorful landscape dotted with russet oaks, red-orange maples, or golden aspens.

But the beautiful foliage doesn’t last forever. Soon the time comes for the trees to release their leaves…

whether they waft gently to the ground,

or they’re blown away suddenly by strong winds.

Interestingly, these trees don’t need their leaves anymore. They are preparing for winter, aiming to conserve water and energy for the days ahead.

The good news is that despite the loss of leaves, we can have confident hope and anticipation of new growth in the springtime, when bare-limbed trees will sprout fresh, green leaves.

The same can be true in our own lives.

There are seasons to “shed” or get rid of things that no longer serve us.

What are some things you need to release in your life? What needs to go?

Years ago, I was recovering from a horrible breakup and I could not seem to let go. I was holding on to “what was” and “what could have been.”

I was hurt and angry about how poorly my boyfriend treated me when we ended things, so I was grappling with forgiving him.

I felt as if I was holding onto the past so firmly, like a tight fist, and our loving Lord was prying it away one finger at a time.

Then, one winter day while walking in a nearby park, I came upon some scrub oak trees. Surprisingly, some of the branches still had leaves clinging to them—but they were dried up, crunchy and brown.

It was wintertime. Their season had passed, yet still they clung on.

It stopped me in my tracks as I realized that I was just like those tenacious oak leaves.

My season with this guy had passed, yet I still hung on.

How could I let go?

I wasn’t able to do it on my own. I’d tried for months.

Suddenly, a strong wind blew and carried dozens of leaves off the scrub oaks in front of me.

And in that moment I knew that the strength I needed to let go would never come from my own limited abilities.

I needed the power of God to blow strong winds of change in my life—to release my grip on the past and drive away the lingering sadness.

And He did.

God helped me to forgive the person who had hurt me so greatly. It wasn’t easy, but it was possible. And I was finally able to move on in freedom and peace.

Whether you need to let go of a person, the past, or something else, you can choose to be free and find joy again.

Maybe you need to shed fear and doubt.

Perhaps you want to release worry, anxiety, or negativity, and find relief.

Or maybe, like me, you need to walk away from the misery from a breakup or another loss, and move forward into renewed hope and joy.

When you let go and give your worries to God, you can trust that He will take care of whatever you’re holding on to so tightly. You can always rely on Him.

God loves you—more than you know. He is wise. He is good. And He will be faithful to work all things together for His good purposes, as we are reminded in Romans 8:28.

Here is one of my favorite verses that’s helped me through many of life’s hardships:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord, not people or circumstances. Not feelings or emotions. Why?

Because we may not have a full understanding of the situation. God knows what we don’t know. And He has the ability to guide us, and change our situation—no matter how difficult it may seem.

When we when we look at what’s happening around us, we can tend to sink into fear and doubt. Yet, when we look our strong God, we stand firm in His mighty power.

Think about what you need to release in your life. What do you need to shed in order to make room for new growth, or perhaps something better?

Then ask God to help you. And choose to trust Him every step of the way.

It’s the season of shedding. Let it go.

It’s time.

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Jackie M. Johnson is an author and blogger who writes inspiring content on growing a better life, the power of prayer, and encouragement for singles. Her books include the breakup recovery guide, When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty, Power Prayers for Women, and Praying with Power When Life Gets Tough. Connect with Jackie at www.jackiejohnsoncreative.com.

Grasping God’s Amazing Love for You

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It’s one thing to know about God’s love for you. It’s an entirely different–and wonderful–thing to experience it. 

Some people are unsure of what love really looks like or feels like, especially if they’ve lacked good role models while growing up. 

Unknowingly, they compare the attributes of God the Father with their earthly father (or others who have not loved them well). 

Others struggle to receive God’s love because they feel guilty or unworthy.

Here’s some good news: despite your failures or perceived imperfections, God cares about you. He accepts you.

No matter who you are or what you’ve done, God’s amazing unconditional love and forgiveness reaches everyone. You just need to make the choice to reach back. 

And when you do, you’ll discover the love of God changes everything.

Years ago, I had a very distorted image of God’s character. I pictured Him as a high-powered executive in a tall swivel chair with His back toward me. 

It thought that I could only enter His presence when I had something really important to say, and I had to speak quickly or He’d get mad. It was a fear-based approach.

Then, I learned the truth.

I discovered that He is loving and forgiving, compassionate and kind, merciful and just, wise and wonderful, and so much more. 

My eyes and my heart began to open. God is not only loving, He IS love. 

God cares about every aspect of your life. You can come to Him any time, and He is always there.

How do we know God loves us? He shows us and He tells us in His Word, the Bible.

God loved us first. The apostle John said, “In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 4:10). 

In this profound and sacrificial act of sending His Son Jesus to earth to pay the price for our wrongdoings, God demonstrated ultimate love. There is none greater.

God shows His love in myriad ways: 

in the spectacular beauty of creation, 

through His living Word, the Bible, 

and through answered prayer. 

He helps us. He heals us. He guides and directs our steps.

He opens doors, and gives us favor. He daily meets our needs.

God loves you. He created you. In fact, you were God’s idea! 

He gave you the gift of life, lovingly crafting you in your mother’s womb with your unique character, intellect, personality, and features.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Psalm 139: 13-14)

After all God has done for us, the most natural response is to love Him back. To worship Him, obey Him, serve Him, spend time with Him—and enjoy Him!

When we begin to grasp God’s love, we can continue to grow in that head knowledge and heart experience.

Grow in God’s Love
How do you grow in God’s love? By being “rooted and grounded” in it. 

Similar to a plant or tree having deep roots so it can grow tall and bear fruit. Ephesians 3:17-19 gives us a beautiful picture of growing in God’s love:

And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love,
may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people,
to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,
and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be
filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

Being rooted in God’s love means that when the winds of change and challenges blow, you won’t topple over emotionally like a tree with shallow roots. You will stand strong in life’s storms.

Growth happens as you read God’s Living Word, the Bible. As you do, you get to know God better—who He is, what He’s done, and what is yet to come. 

In addition to reading the words, think on them, absorb the truth, and let God’s Words seep into your heart and life.

In time, “fruit” will appear in your life, just like growth comes to fruit trees with deep roots. Your crop will be the Fruit of the Spirit: “…love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

When you are rooted and grounded in God’s love, you know that:

Even when you make mistakes, God loves you. His love is unconditional and forgiving.

Even when you feel unacceptable, God accepts you.

Even when no one will listen to you, God always longs to hear what’s on your heart.

Even when others walk out on you, God is totally committed to you. He will never leave.

God not only loves you. He likes you! In fact, you were His idea. 

Our Creator crafted you in your mother’s womb into a human being with a mind to think and reason, with your unique physical makeup, emotions, personality, and more.

Knowing and experiencing God’s love gives us the capacity to love others to a greater extent. 

Because when you know God loves you, you’re growing in that love, sharing it with others, and then you begin to live a life of love.

My prayer is that God will continue to reveal His great love to you as you seek to put Him first. 

When you do, you may just be surprised by how you’re more empowered to love yourself and love others.

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Jackie M. Johnson is an author and blogger who writes inspiring content on growing a better life, the power of prayer, and encouragement for singles. Her books include the breakup recovery guide, When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty, Power Prayers for Women, and Praying with Power When Life Gets Tough

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Looking for Love? Here’s Hope

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If you want more LOVE in your life (and who doesn’t?), it’s helpful to know that learning to love is a journey.

We start by knowing that God loves us—more than we will ever know.

Then, we learn to love ourselves

Secure in that love, and empowered by God, we are better able to love others.

Learning to love leads us into better relationships—with family, friends, a romantic relationship, and others. We even find the strength to deal with the difficult people in our lives.

Here are some inspiring posts about love that I’ve written recently.

I hope they lead you into heart healing, emotional strength, peace, joy, and infinitely better relationships of all kinds.

Click on each post below to read and get inspired!

Grasping God’s Love for You

Learning to Love and Accept Yourself

How to Know You’re In Love

How to Love Others Well

When we experience God love, and truly connect with others, we are never the same.

Neither is the world around us.

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Single? 5 Ways to Be Happy Now

Woman wondering
Why am I still single?

Why don’t I get asked out?

Will I ever find lasting love?

Perhaps you know people in the “uncoupled” stage of life who bemoan their single status and gripe to just about anyone who will listen.

Maybe you are one of them.

It’s good to ask the questions. Then explore why you’re single and take positive action.

If you don’t have a special someone in your life right now, and you’re wondering why you’re single, there’s probably a good reason.

Here are just a few things that could be keeping you from a romantic love relationship:

  • You’re not ready.
  • You’re too busy with work, or other things right now.
  • You’re afraid of commitment.
  • You keep choosing people who are unavailable or emotionally unhealthy.
  • Or, you just haven’t met the right person yet—the best fit for you.

If you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and you desire that, you can choose to enjoy this single season of life or simply endure it.

Check out these five (5) helpful ways to find more peace—and perspective—in this solo time.

1. Have hope. It’s OK to feel discouraged when you don’t have someone special in your life. But don’t dwell on it. Move forward with anticipation that things really could change. We can have peace because God has a plan. Trust His perfect timing.

2. Surrender. Sometimes we hold on so tightly to what we think we want in a relationship. But it never seems to work out. I’ve learned that peace comes through surrender, yielding to God, and allowing Him to reign my love life and my whole life. God is constantly working—even when we cannot see it or feel it.

3. Prepare. Are you ready to be in a relationship? Maybe it’s time to get rid of things that are holding you back—like a critical spirit or commitment issues. Think about what you really want and how things can be different next time. The more emotionally healthy you are, the more likely you’ll be to connect with someone in a healthy and lasting relationship.

4. Pray. God cares about your love life. Pray for your future boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife—before you even meet. Tell God your heart’s desires and ask Him for wisdom in this important decision.

5. Choose joy now. Don’t wait to have a significant other in your life to be happy. Despite circumstances, you can choose joy today—and, with God’s power and strength in you, you can live with hope and peace.

Dealing with Grief and Loss: Here’s Hope and Comfort

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Hear my prayer, O LORD, listen to my cry
for help; be not deaf to my weeping.
Psalm 39:12

A few years ago Julia lost her mother and 10-year old daughter, and broke her pelvis, in a tragic car accident. Sadly, Julia was unable to able to attend her daughter’s funeral because she was in the hospital recovering from her injuries.

Julia is still recovering from the awful day that changed her life forever. Every day she gets up, gets dressed and seeks to brighten the day for others.

Hope is reawakening, like the first fragile crocuses bursting from snowy ground in springtime. 

There many different types of losses in life, and just as many ways that people handle loss and grief.

Loss touches our lives in many ways, whether it’s through divorce, death, or the death of a dream.

A woman learns she can never bear children.

A business owner discovers his partner has deceived him, now he’s financially wiped out.

Foreclosure on your dream home, financial setbacks, or a disabling illness or injury can be life-shattering.

Disaster changes the landscape of your life. You stand amidst the rubble and wreckage, and you wonder how you will ever cope with such losses.

Nehemiah’s story
Bouncing back from tragedy takes time—a lot of time. It also takes comfort, support and an abundance of prayer.

Nehemiah found help and hope in the rubble of tragedy.

Though he lived centuries ago, his life lessons still apply to us today.

A Jewish man in a foreign land, Nehemiah worked for royalty as the cup-bearer to the king of Persia. When he heard news that the city of Jerusalem lay in ruins and its walls had been burned and broken, he was greatly distressed and saddened.

His heart broke for his people. In ancient times, city walls were essential for security and protection against the danger of all kinds of enemies.

Nehemiah prayed to God for the right words to say his boss, a very powerful king. He prayed and fasted, and prayed again. He praised God, asked for forgiveness, and presented his request to the king.

The humble servant finally found favor.

The king not only gave Nehemiah his permission, he also gave him a guarantee of safe passage with special papers and officers to accompany him.

Once in Jerusalem, Nehemiah enlisted help. But most of the volunteer workers were not skilled as wall builders. They set about rebuilding and worked heartily.

Then, worn out and frustrated, the builders’ focus became more on the rubble around them and not the progress they had made.

Nehemiah 4:10 reads, “Meanwhile, the people in Judah said, ‘The strength of the laborers is giving out, and there is so much rubble that we cannot rebuild the wall’” (italics mine).

Have you ever felt like everything is crumbling around you, and the pieces of your problems lay at your feet like the wreckage from a collapsed building?

It’s too much. You can’t do this. You are simply overwhelmed.

Nehemiah was constantly in prayer.

He and his volunteer wall builders regrouped, working hard for a cause they believed in. When opposition came from officials, they prayed—and posted guards to keep safe.

When news from impending enemy attacks came, they prayed—and guarded the city as they kept on working.

Finally, the wall was rebuilt and the city repopulated. They praised God for all He had done for them.

After all that had transpired, they celebrated, as Nehemiah said to the people, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10).

Rebuilding from loss
God is all about redeeming loss and pain, and healing wounds of all kinds. He is the Master at rebuilding, whether it’s rubble in the streets of Jerusalem or the wreckage in your heart.

We may try to deal with tragedy and the ensuing emotions that follow—sadness, anger, resentment, or guilt—in unhealthy ways.

Sometimes we don’t know what to do, so we do nothing and hope that one day the pain will simply go away.

Navigating the strange and stormy waters of grief is hard. But not impossible. Everyone’s healing journey will be different. Yours may take longer than mine. God may use different methods to lead you from sorrow to joy.  

How do you find your way forward through the grieving process?
No matter what type of loss you have incurred, comfort and support are the first steps.

  • It can come from the warm embrace of a close friend, a listening ear, or kind words. We need our friends to help us remember what we already know, or to say nothing and simply be there with us in the midst of the pain.
  • Many people find soul support as they journal their prayers or their feelings.
  • Healing also comes through rest, or a change of scenery. The beauty of nature, God’s creation, is restorative.
  • Knowing God is with you, and that He is your comforter, brings peace as the words of Matthew 5:4 affirm, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
  • Healing also comes as you release heart anguish through your tears. Cling to God’s promises, hold on to hope, and surrender your pain to Him in prayer.
  • Instead of holding it all inside, it can be helpful to talk about what happened with caring friends, family members or a Christian counselor who can help process the pain.

Grief unprocessed, ignored or denied, festers. Processing the pain brings release and relief.

Worship and the Word
When you are feeling hopeless the most powerful thing you can do is worship. Despair cannot journey where praise and worship reside.

You may be too grief-stricken to know what to say. But you can put on worship music, or even just sit with your eyes closed and ask God to heal your heart as you rest, focusing on His amazing love and gentle comfort. Psalm 92:1-2 tells us,

It is good to praise the LORD
and make music to your name, O Most High,
proclaiming your love in the morning
and your faithfulness at night.

As we give God our praises, He gives us His presence.

Focusing on His character and what He has done for you lift you to a new place. God is great, and He is worthy of our praises. Like rain soaks the desert and brings forth cactus blossoms, worship and prayer bring renewal to a withering heart.

In addition to worship, spending time reading God’s Word brings comfort and hope. Maybe you already read the Bible, maybe you don’t. Now is the time to discover more of the treasure that is the Word of God. It’s your spiritual food, nourishment every day; essential in times of need.

Open the Bible, there’s hope inside.

A Different Kind of Strength
In 2011, a tsunami caused by an 8.9 magnitude earthquake devastated northeastern Japan.

It caused widespread destruction and extensive damage to coastal cities. But the powerful force didn’t stop there; it continued inland flooding and destroying homes, schools and farmland for miles.

 The landscape is now a sea of debris—and a once thriving community is a veritable wasteland.

Recently, I watched a TV program about the disaster and one survivor said, “There’s a different kind of strength you find after you’ve survived something terrible.”

Tragedies can undo us; they can also make us stronger.

Life may be challenging for you right now; you wonder how things will ever change. Take heart.

Even in your darkest times, the hope of Christ shines brighter.

When you are weak, He is your strong comfort. When you are exhausted, He is your strength—firm and secure.

The Light of the World shines as your beacon—a lighthouse in the midst of the storm to guide you to safe harbor. And better days ahead.

May our strong and Mighty God bring peace and comfort to you.